How Bad Do You Want It?

I shared this quote on my social media recently:

“Many people think they want more than they actually do and they settle for less than they can actually have.” – Earl Nightingale

I heard this quote from my mentor a few weeks ago and I chose to sit with it for over a week. It caused me to take notice and ask myself three questions:

  1. How bad do I really want the thing that I say I desire?
  2. If I really want the thing am I willing to do the thing it take to get it done?
  3. Do I only like the idea of wanting the thing?

For example:

  • If I want to lose weight, am I willing to keep a food log if needed?
  • If I want to save more money, am I willing to create and stick to my budget?
  • If I want to exercise, am I willing to wake up earlier or go later to go the gym?

How bad do you want it?

Please really take time to think about this question. For me some days I really want it and other days I’ll make exceptions. So, I guess I don’t really want it. Once I really want it – it will be easier for me to get clear on what I want and set goals no matter how hard to achieve them.

We have this quote that is often said in my mentoring program,

“Successful people do what none successful people don’t do.”

“The degree of which you are willing to suffer for a thing is an indication of how bad you really want it.” – Dr. Dharius Daniels

So, I’ll ask you again, How Bad Do You Want It?

Happy Birthday Shun

Today is her 30th birthday! Sigh, she’s getting old! ?

Today is all about her, don’t let anyone tell you differently.

So let me tell y’all about Shun: She’s the sister that you do not look at when something funny happens in a church – because y’all will both be in trouble for laughing. ???

Also, if you are hungry, cook before her because she can take an hour to make a sandwich. Although, if you convince her to make you some food, particularly a salad it will be delicious. ??

So side note: I played pretend school with my younger sisters and I was always the teacher. Shun was the best student because she actually came to class every day. I may or may not have taken attendance and had a grade book. ??

One of my most memorable moments is when we were younger, she was probably about 8 years old. She was upset at my mom for something and decided she was going to run away from home on her bike. Welp, by the time she reached the end of the driveway her chain popped off of her bicycle so she came right back home. ????

She has undeniable strength, despite knowing everything that she has traversed through in life, and guess what y’all – she’s still standing! I admire that about her!

In addition, she’s also super talented – she can sing and draw amongst many others. Cheers to an amazing 30th year of life!

Love you!

⁃ Wren

Scripture: Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another; Romans 12:10

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Happy Birthday – Cheers to 32

Hey, y’all hey! It’s my quarantined ? Birthday! #turnup ?

Anywho – Do y’all talk to yourself or say daily affirmations? Well, I do.  Like the scripture says, life and death are in the power of your tongue. I choose to speak life to myself and my situations around me!  I wrote a blog or affirmation to myself for my 32nd Birthday that I will share with y’all.

Side note: When I talk to myself – I call myself by my government name, so here it goes! ?


Hey, bruh! Happy Born Day! Out of all days in the year, God ordained for you to be born on this day, August 31st. #howsway

I’m so proud of you for everything you have accomplished. It is amazing watching you continue to grow and blossom into the woman God predestined for you to be.

You are absolutely stunning and gorgeous too. ☺️

You are strong.

You are resilient.

You are fine fine! ?

You can literally do anything – with God’s help, of course.

This year is full of changes, readjustments, twists, turns, smiles, frowns, and sometimes even tears. But the most beautiful thing is you are still here. You have navigated through unseen quarantined territories like the boss that you are! Keep going! I’m rooting for you!

Guess what? There is no daily checklist to this thing called life, but you are figuring it out with God’s help. Be flexible because you aren’t perfect and no one expects you to be. Continue to forgive yourself and others and utilize all the gifts and talents that God has given you.

Your purpose is to serve others and please God – continue to focus on that. You have a beautiful family and amazing friends that God ordained to be in your life.

Continue to grow in God and grace. And lastly, as you embark on chapter 32, remember that I will continue to honor and respect you. And most importantly, I will always love you.

Scripture of the Day:

“Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.”

Jeremiah‬ ‭1:5‬ KJV

Leggo My Ego


Ladies, this weekend I had to try on a pair of jeans to make sure they still fit. Have y’all tried on a pair jeans lately? ? Anywho – That’s not what I wanted to chat about. Lol

I wanted to talk about examining your heart. I’ve been on this journey examining my heart for the past few months and asking God to reveal things to me that I can work on. Once I become aware of something, I take time to examine the issue, determine the root cause and pray about it so I can try to exhibit more God qualities.

Story time: I casually brought this topic up last week in a post, but I want to elaborate a little further. I’ve noticed occasionally I like to be right when I’m talking. For example, when I have a conversation with someone and they say something wrong – I have to immediately correct them like I’m the conversation police. ? #thatissoannoying

First of all – why do I feel the need to correct them and secondly, when I correct them what do it prove? It proves absolutely nothing. I had to come to grips with a very harsh reality for myself – its an ego problem. #OUCH

How do you address any problem?

You go back to the source – “the Bible”. God designed it so that it really has an answer for EVERYTHANG! So, in addition to reading the Bible about scriptures about my heart, I am also practicing the shut up spirit. Sometimes, I have to caution myself to be quiet until I can speak things that are edifying to others. Y’all, it isn’t easy all the time, but I know with practice it will be second nature. 

Question of the Day: What is something that you are working on to better yourself?

Scripture: Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23

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Natural Hair

I grew up in an era where relaxers aka perms were popular. Once I start working out I realized it was counterproductive for me to continue to relax my hair. My workouts made me sweat, so I had to straighten my hair almost every day, which made it severely heat damaged. I eventually made the decision to stop relaxing my hair, but it was a process. I wore braids, crocheted hair, and sew-ins until I was comfortable with my length of hair.

Often people would say girl, just rock your hair, but forget it’s YOUR hair. Lol. And on top of that sis, did they forget the expense of natural products? Two products can easily run you $25.00 – and let’s pray those products will work on your hair texture. Sigh…? I’ve learned you and I are the only people that have to feel comfortable with how we decide to rock our hair. I’m grateful that I am now fully comfortable with my curly coils, silk press, my baby fro and my weave. All of them represent me and I love every one of them, however, it took time to get to this point. Often times social media glamorizes girls with looser curl patterns because their hair appears easier to manage but, there is joy in learning to fully embrace yourself. I am still on my journey to grow my natural hair to mid-back length and I love my 4B/4C low porosity and low-density hair.

P.S. Remember God cares about everything, he even knows the number of hairs on our head. #howsway

“And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.” Luke 12:7 NLT