New Friends or Nah?

At the beautiful age of 33, I can honestly say I’m blessed to have amazing friends in my life. But, what about when we meet new people, do we embrace them or do we say no new friends? 🤔

My Pastor often says all new relationships begin with an awkward hello. After that introduction, both people get to decide if they want to cultivate the relationship or leave it as is.

Making new friends can be interesting at any age, but especially after 30. 😂Sometimes friendships blossom easily and others may take a little more time. One thing I’ve learned that’s important in any friendship is to know what you need and also know what you are capable of giving to others. Don’t force yourself to be overextended.

Because friendships can have so much influence on your life, it’s okay not to be everyone’s friend. I’m going to repeat that for the people in the back: everyone is not your friend! It’s healthy to be selective in your friendships. I’ll share 3 things that I try to do when I’m considering someone as a new friend.

3 Friendly Habits

  1. Establish common ground and use this to set up a met up or spark conversation (what hobbies, interests do you all have in common)
  2. Check on them (A weekly follow-up such as how is your week going, what are you doing this weekend, etc…)
  3. Be friendly and open-minded to people who aren’t your typical friend. If they extend an invite for coffee and you can go – accept and get to know them. If it doesn’t work out, that’s okay. At least you tried!

A couple of my friendships started with people I didn’t think would be my friend and years later – we are still friends!

Are you open to making new friends? Why or why not?

“My intercessor is my friend as my eyes pour out tears to God; on behalf of a man he pleads with God as one pleads for a friend.” Job‬ ‭16:20-21‬ ‭NIV‬‬