Managing Expectations

Have you ever been disappointed? OMG! ??‍♀️I have. It is like the worst feeling ever, or at least it feels that way at that moment. Lol.

I’m sure we all have plenty of examples in which we have disappointed ourselves or been disappointed by someone else. I have plenty of stories I could share, but I’ll focus on the first two that came to my mind.

For example:
When I was a child, I wanted to go to Chuckie Cheese, all the time. But, of course, we didn’t always go when I wanted to go. Sometimes we had other family obligations we had to attend or we didn’t have Chuckie Cheese money.

Or, another example:
In grad school I received my first B in my research methods course. I was high-key disappointed in myself and my teacher. I wanted to say, I finished grad school with a 4.0, but that wasn’t my story.
She gave me a B, yes I said gave. I know  I earned an A. #stillsalty

Anywho, I realized that disappointment is based on expectations that we place on someone else that they may or may not be aware of.
When others fail to meet our expectation, we are disappointed. Im guilty.
I will be the first person to admit that I will be in my feelings ready to have a whole meltdown. ?
Like – I’m clearly pissed at them or myself and sometimes they don’t even know. Woosah.
To better manage expectations, of course we can try not to place any expectations on anyone. To the contrary, that doesn’t work.
I’ve been there and tried it. #fail ??‍♀️

We really do need others. #community

Instead, we can try to manage our expectations of others by realizing sometimes life happens.
Maybe, they didn’t know you expected something of them or they made an honest mistake and forgot. We can choose to forgive them or stay upset. I forgive, because there is nothing worst than to be upset about something and you can’t sleep, while the other person is living their best life with joy.

Question of the Day: How do you manage the expectation you place on others?

Scripture of the Day:
In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
I Thessalonians 5:18