Vantage Point
Sometimes, I can be a ball of nerves. The Bible says, "Do not be anxious," but here I am, anxious, trying to control every outcome as if I hold all the cards. The irony is that I *know* I don’t have any real control, yet I still find myself wrestling for it, holding on tightly to my own plans and hopes, imagining I can somehow steer it all.
It’s in these moments that the scriptures speak louder than ever, reminding me of something critical: do I actually trust God? Or am I just pretending to be in control, as if I’m somehow in God’s place?
Then, I picture Jesus seated in Heavenly places, on the right hand of God, his Father. He has the vantage point—the perfect perspective to see and know all things. He already knows every single detail: the mistakes I’m going to make, who I’ll marry, whether I’ll have kids, what my next job will be, the current events I will live through and etc... Knowing this, I’m reminded, "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7 (NIV)
The weight of trying to control it all is exhausting. It’s a weight we were never meant to carry. We can’t control people, and we certainly can’t control outcomes, no matter how much we’d like to think otherwise. So I invite you, friend, to do what I’m reminding myself to do: invite Jesus into the situation. Lean on the one who has the clearest view and the wisest plan.
It’s okay to share that you’re nervous, worried, confused, or anxious. I think it’s human. But we don’t have to stay there.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” - Philippians 4:6 (NIV)
Trust that He hears you and has the best vantage point.
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It's Good
I think in our culture we underestimate the word good. Even when we are ranking something we use the categories of good, better, and best. This order signifies that good appears to be a lower ranking and we must be the best. I think maybe our English vernacular can’t compute the goodness of the word good.
Storytime: I was reading during my devotional time. Sidenote: (I’ll do a blog on how I structure my mornings with God and share with y’all.) Okay back to the story, I was reading about a Jewish celebration called Rosh Hashanah and it made a reference to the story of creation in Genesis Chapter 1. In this chapter every time God spoke and created (because he’s the greatest Creator) he said it was good.
Scripture reference: “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good! And evening passed and morning came, marking the sixth day.” Genesis 1:31 NLT
Here’s a slight biblical history lesson: The Book of Genesis was written in Hebrew and was later translated to English. As always research this for yourself and don’t even take my word for stuff! That’s how you build good study and relational habits with God by having a curious mindset. Okay I digressed! Back to the story, in the scripture above when God said it was very good.
From the Bible concordance, good in Hebrew, in the verse referenced above means pleasant, agreeable and good.For me, the Hebrew definition sounds so much better than the English definition.Webster defines good as to be desired or approved of. All of this to say, the next time you use the word “good” remember we were created in the image of God and everything He created, He said it was good!Ciao! ✌🏽
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Drawing Closer to the Mirror
You know how when you step closer to the mirror, your reflection becomes so much clearer? Suddenly, every detail is up close and personal, things you may not have even noticed from a distance are now front and center. This simple act of drawing closer to our reflection holds a powerful message about our relationship with God.
Imagine that mirror reflection as a symbol of how we should be with God. He’s created us in His image, right? So, when we “move closer to the mirror”—when we draw closer to God—we start to see ourselves in a new light. We’re given the chance to truly reflect God back, and in the process, He reveals things to us, things we need to work on.
When we get close enough, He’ll show us areas that need attention: our heart’s posture, patterns of sin, or parts of our character that may need refining. This closeness is a blessing because it means we’re allowing God to work on us, to mold us to look more and more like Him in character. And just like looking in the mirror shows both the good and the imperfections, spending time with God does the same—it gently nudges us to become better.
Reflecting God's Image: Becoming More Like Him
As we draw near, we should start to mirror qualities of God’s character. Imagine your reflection showing qualities like kindness, love, mercy, and generosity. These aren’t just “niceties” they’re traits we should work on to reflect God.
Kindness: Are you patient and gentle with others, even when they don’t “deserve” it?Scripture reference: Proverbs 11:17 - “Those who are kind benefit themselves, but the cruel bring ruin on themselves.”
Love: Is your love selfless and sacrificial, seeking the good of others?Scripture reference: 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 - “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”
Merciful: Do you forgive and show grace, even when you’ve been wronged?
Scripture reference: Matthew 5:7 - “Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.”
Generosity: Are you willing to give freely, of your time, talent and treasure?Scripture reference: 2 Corinthians 9:7 - “Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.”
As we look into our “mirror,” let’s reflect on these traits and ask ourselves, Are we kind? Are we loving? Are we merciful? Are we generous?
So today, take a step closer to that mirror, both literally and spiritually. Draw near to God, let Him show you what needs work, and let your reflection—your actions, your character—start to look a little more like His.
Patience
I am not a fan of long waits and stuff—long lines, long meetings, long books, long hikes… Get the idea?
I’m going to share a secret with y’all - don’t judge me. 😬😬😬 I listen to my audiobooks on a speed of 1.5 - 2. I also sometimes read the last chapter before finishing the entire book if it is too long before. I prefer a good summary, blog and or cliff notes you know. 😂
So if you can imagine, you probably won’t see me asking God to help me be patient although it’s one of the fruit of the spirit you know.
Since we mentioned patience, let’s recap all the fruit.
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! Galatians 5:22-23
Notice the scripture says fruit and not fruits. 😆
For me this means the 9 fruit are like a fruit basket altogether - I need to have all of them inside of me, not just the ones that are convenient. 🙃 🎵 You can’t have one without the other! 🎵
Looking at these have you thought of which fruit you need to work on?
“But if we look forward to something we don’t yet have, we must wait patiently and confidently.)” Romans 8:25 NLT
Lean In
I’ve always been a lover of a good story. Give me all the details, or at least enough to follow along! When a friend starts telling a juicy story, I can’t help but lean in, physically and mentally, hanging on to every word.
Lately, I’ve realized that same posture—leaning in—is exactly what I need to do to hear God clearly and focus on what truly matters in my life. This season is full of distractions. They’re not all bad things, but if they’re pulling me away from what I’m meant to focus on, they become distractions—whether it’s social media, TV, or an overly packed schedule.
With fall here and Q4 upon us (can you believe it?), the question is: Are you ready? Have you thought about where you're leaning in this season?
Remember, where you place your attention affects what you retain. So be intentional—lean into what’s right for you during this season.
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The Repetition of Love: What Does It Take to Love Like Jesus?
In the Bible, there’s a powerful moment when Jesus asks Simon Peter the same question three times:
“Do you love me?” (John 21:15-17 NLT).At first glance, it seems like a simple exchange. Yet, when we look closer, the repetition of this question holds deeper meaning.
Here’s the passage:
“After breakfast Jesus asked Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these?”
“Yes, Lord,” Peter replied, “you know I love you.” “Then feed my lambs,”
Jesus told him. Jesus repeated the question: “Simon son of John, do you love me?” “Yes, Lord,” Peter said, “you know I love you.”
“Then take care of my sheep,” Jesus said.
A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time.
He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.” John 21:15-17 NLT
The question that rises here is: Why did Jesus repeat this question three times? Was it for Peter’s sake, to reinforce his commitment, or for us, the readers, to truly grasp the weight of love?
The Power of Repetition
Repetition has a way of breaking through our surface-level understanding and helping us dive deeper into the heart of a message. We may have all heard the scripture: “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” But how often do we pause and really think about what it takes to live this out daily?
Jesus wasn’t just asking Peter if he loved Him in a general sense. He was calling Peter to live out that love in action—feeding His lambs and caring for His sheep. It was a command to love through service, to demonstrate love by caring for others.
Loving People Like Jesus
When I read this scripture last week, I found myself reflecting on my own character. I’ve always known that love is important, but how can I love people better? In a world where unkindness and division can sometimes feel overwhelming, what does it mean to love others the way Jesus loved?
Just as Jesus repeated His question to Peter, we’ve heard the message of love again and again, whether it’s through biblical teachings or the echoes of love in our own lives. But hearing is one thing—living it is another.
To truly love others, I believe it begins with seeing them. So many people feel unseen and unheard. A quote I love says:
“Being unheard is not the absence of a voice, but the absence of someone willing to listen.”
Love in Action
We live in a fast-paced world, where the habit of listening and engaging deeply with others can easily get lost. But maybe love is simpler than we think. To love people like Jesus, perhaps it starts with a willingness to pause, to see someone, to truly listen.
That’s my challenge for myself—and for you—this week. Let’s commit to seeing someone, listening to them, and showing them they matter. In doing so, we can reflect a deeper, more genuine love.
Challenge: Who can you listen to and care for this week?
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Did Someone Say Challenge?
This weekend, I tuned into the 818 Conference and walked away with so many valuable insights on finance, credit, budgeting, and more! While watching, it hit me that there are definitely areas in my life where I could improve how I manage my resources. And let’s be real – September I was outside, so it's time to get things back on track.
Whenever I feel the need to refocus, I like to kick things off with a challenge. Who else loves a good challenge? I sure do! Challenges have a way of pushing you to new heights and helping you prioritize the promises you've made to yourself. And remember, when we honor our commitments to ourselves, it strengthens our ability to show up truthfully for others.As we step into fall and approach the final quarter of 2024, let’s finish strong by focusing on our health, wealth, and personal growth (reading)!
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God Hates This and I do too!
When I read the Bible, I focus on two things:
1. God’s character revealed in scripture.
2. The qualities I share with God.
Right now, I’m participating in a challenge where I read one chapter of Proverbs each day, and you’re welcome to join me! While reading Proverbs 6, I noticed a list of six things God hates and one thing He detests. As I reflected on it, I realized I dislike all of them as well. Since I’m God’s daughter, made in His image (Genesis 1:26), I’m always striving to align my values with His. My desire is to reflect Jesus in my life.
Here’s the list from Proverbs 6:17-19 (NLT):
1. Haughty eyes (pride).
2. A lying tongue.
3. Hands that shed innocent blood.
4. A heart that devises wicked plans.
5. Feet that race to do wrong.
6. A false witness who breathes out lies.
7. A person who sows discord in a family.
The first six are things God hates, while He specifically detests the seventh.
How do you feel about this list? Do you find yourself disliking these things too?
Consideration
As I age gracefully, I realize my list of desires and needs that I want in a spouse is much shorter than it was in my 20s. One recent thing I added to my list for my future spouse is consideration.
Consideration - careful thought, something that is to be kept in mind in making a decision, evaluating facts, esteem, thoughtfulness of others
As I’m thinking of traits I want in a spouse I try to ensure I’m practicing the traits today and so I thought of my most important and valuable relationship - my relationship with God if I was considerate there.
I know I can’t physically see God because he’s not a man - but there are ways I can consider him.
The Bible says:
“Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.” Matthew 6:10 KJV
and
“We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.” Proverbs 16:9 NLT
As I was journaling this morning (yes you can write your prayers) - I wrote: “God I consider your will and plans for my life.”
For my relationship with God, consideration means that even when I have plans and ideas I ensure they align with his plans for my life. If our plans don't align, consideration for me means God's plans prevails.
My Practical Way of Considering God
I communicate with God in prayer. When I pray I share my plans and ask him his thoughts. Then I sit still for a moment and look for ways for him to confirm it within me through his word (the Bible), dreams, others that I trust, inner knowing, peace and etc…
But the main thing for me is before I take my plans and or ideas to anyone else I consider God’s thoughts and will on a decision.
Do you have anyone you consider in your plans?
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Life Has a Rhythm
Life has a rhythm. Ebbs and flows. Peaks and valleys. For me, I can tell when my rhythm is off because I’ll start to rush things and become highly agitated. Certain things in life are routine - such as my prayer life, working out, blogging and so much more.
- To keep a rhythm, we must prepare. While our preparation seasons may look different because our tasks vary, we must be intentional in planning. Planning entails deciding what you want to do in each season. Some things are going to always happen in the fall - like football and back to school. Are you prepared? I know the Business Brunch Conference is in August along with my Birthday. Am I prepared for both of those? Life has a rhythm are you prepared?
- Along with life rhythm, we must have a rhythm to work. As a blogger, author, book coach, and employee I must have a rhythm for when I’m blogging, writing, and everything else vs. when I’m working my full-time job. If I don’t have a rhythm of when I’m preparing my blogs or writing - my life will feel chaotic and I won’t get things accomplished. Life has a rhythm for work, are you in rhythm?
- Lastly, life has a rhythm for rest. The scripture reminds us here: “By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work.” Genesis 2:2 NIV Even God rested. I recently took a few weeks off of social media to rest after planning a conference. My goal is to have such a rhythm that I’ll rest before I have to so life won’t force me. Schedule rest into your schedule. Take time away from social media - it will be there when you get back. Rid yourself of the fear of missing out (FOMO). You are exactly in the season you need to be - even if your current season is rest. Life has a rhythm of rest - have you rested?
My challenge for you this week is to write one thing you are going to do to prepare for this season, how you are going find your work rhythm and decide when you will rest! Feel free to drop it in the comments.
Life Has a Rhythm
Life has a rhythm. Ebbs and flows. Peaks and valleys. For me, I can tell when my rhythm is off because I’ll start to rush things and become highly agitated. Certain things in life are routine - such as my prayer life, working out, blogging and so much more.
- To keep a rhythm, we must prepare. While our preparation seasons may look different because our tasks vary, we must be intentional in planning. Planning entails deciding what you want to do in each season. Some things are going to always happen in the fall - like football and back to school. Are you prepared? I know the Business Brunch Conference is in August along with my Birthday. Am I prepared for both of those? Life has a rhythm are you prepared?
- Along with life rhythm, we must have a rhythm to work. As a blogger, author, book coach, and employee I must have a rhythm for when I’m blogging, writing, and everything else vs. when I’m working my full-time job. If I don’t have a rhythm of when I’m preparing my blogs or writing - my life will feel chaotic and I won’t get things accomplished. Life has a rhythm for work, are you in rhythm?
- Lastly, life has a rhythm for rest. The scripture reminds us here: “By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work.” Genesis 2:2 NIV Even God rested. I recently took a few weeks off of social media to rest after planning a conference. My goal is to have such a rhythm that I’ll rest before I have to so life won’t force me. Schedule rest into your schedule. Take time away from social media - it will be there when you get back. Rid yourself of the fear of missing out (FOMO). You are exactly in the season you need to be - even if your current season is rest. Life has a rhythm of rest - have you rested?
My challenge for you this week is to write one thing you are going to do to prepare for this season, how you are going find your work rhythm and decide when you will rest! Feel free to drop it in the comments.
My Social Media Break
Hey yall! I’ve missed yall! So the week after hosting The Business Brunch Conference, I deleted my social media apps - Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. I realized I needed to rest my brain and decompress. I’m glad I did because I prioritized my mental health, reset my sleep schedule, and rested. I enjoyed the time off social media and want to share some of the things that happened in the last couple of weeks!
7 Ways I utilized my time off social media
- I spent time quality time with God. Right now, I’m going through the book of Romans.
- I listened to like 3 or 4 audiobooks. I love memoirs. My favorite was Tina Turner, My Love Story.
- I had my first speaking engagement for a Writer’s Guile. Go me!!!
- I celebrated my birthday early with friends and family. ❤️ My birthday is on August 31st, but I’ll be somewhere on a beach! 🏝️
- I returned to boxing class at the gym. 6am gym times are brutal.
- I went to the movies to see Inside Out 2 with a friend. It’s such a good movie.
- I slept. I decreased my phone screen time and took naps. I love a good nap!
Other stuff happened that didn’t make the list; however, I wanted to share my top 7 list. When you discontinue social media, how do you spend your time?
Conference Year 2
This weekend, we wrapped up Year 2 of The Business Brunch Conference with the theme “Remain Planted.” Can you believe it? Year 2 already! I have to pinch myself sometimes—like, is this really happening? The atmosphere was everything I hoped for: a beautifully cultivated space that felt like a warm, encouraging hug, surrounded by like-minded women. It was pure joy.
While the entire conference was a highlight, my absolute favorite moment was sharing it with the incredible ladies of The Business Brunch. I am forever grateful for Kelechi, Carmen, Brittany, Erica, Yaritza, Timika, and Renisha. You all made this experience so special.
And can we talk about the fact that I spoke to my therapist live in front of everyone? 😬😂 I mean, who does that? Me, apparently! I still can’t believe I did it. It was one of those moments where I had to pause and think, “Baby, what are you doing?” But you know what? I’m so glad I did. It was a reminder of how far I’ve come and how grateful I am that God chose me to help others on their journeys.
Of course, after planning a conference, I’ve learned a thing or two, and I’m excited to share some helpful tips:
5 Tips for Planning a Conference:
1. It’s never too early to start planning.
2. Write your vision down—and don’t forget to add prices to it.
3. If you have help, delegate as much as possible.
4. Create a to-do list of all the necessary items for completion.
5. Most importantly, enjoy the moment and have fun.
There’s so much more to share, so stay tuned for photos!
Opposite Day
Y'all sometimes I am reading scripture and I laugh thinking- God only you can help me implement the things outlined.
Okay so I was reading this scripture mentioned below on last week and I was shook! “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” Matthew 5:44 KJVWhen I read scripture I like to:
- Break it into pieces.
- Look up the key words in Greek or Hebrew.
- Read the same scripture in different translations.
- Ask God for ways to apply it to my life.
However, when it comes to this scripture, the commas already break it down for you and it is written practically.
Before 5:44, you must read 5:43 because the scripture starts with a conjunction so it is negating something that was previously written.
“Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.” Matthew 5:43 KJV
Okay now we can discuss 5:44 and this is God speaking.
God Says:
- If you have enemies - love them.
- If people curse you - bless them.
- If people hate you - do good to them.
- If people use you - pray for them.
- If people persecute you - pray for them.
Say what???!!! Like this is stuff I can only do with God’s help because it wasn’t initially my normal response. It seems counter opposite to culture. But honestly, that's just like God - calling us to be different and to love others. Are you doing what God said?
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Be At Where Your Feet At
I recently heard this quote on a show: “Be at where your feet at.” While it might not be the best grammar, it’s entirely true. Wherever your feet are, be present in that moment.
There’s so much going on in the world right now with elections, breaking news, weather updates, social media drama, summer travel, and more. Since July started, it feels like the world is all gas and no brakes. To be present takes intentionality. Here are some ways I’m practicing being at where my feet are.
5 Ways to Be Where My Feet Are
- Limiting distractions: When I’m out, I turn my phone over.
- Engaging in active listening: I make an effort to truly hear and understand what others are saying.
- Not overloading my schedule: I try to avoid more than two events in one day.
- Asking open-ended questions: This encourages deeper conversations.
- Showing empathy: I try to understand and share the feelings of others.
In a world filled with distractions, we must be intentional about being where our feet are. Being present means fully being there with others.
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How Do You Make Decisions?
We all know decisions can have a lasting impact on our lives. In fact, research suggests that we make about 33,000 - 35,000 decisions each day. While some choices are trivial, like whether to sleep for an extra 5 minutes or what to wear to work, others have profound implications, such as deciding who to marry or where to attend school.
Recently, I read an insightful book titled “Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets.” It offers a straightforward yet powerful framework for making better choices by considering five key questions:
1. Integrity: Am I being honest with myself, really?2. Legacy: What story do I want to tell?3. Conscious: Is there attention that deserves my attention?4. Maturity: What is the wise thing to do?5. Relationships: What does love require of me?
Reflecting on these questions helps us navigate our decisions in light of our past experiences, current circumstances, and future hopes and dreams. Your decisions determine the story of your life, and private decisions often have public outcomes.
Remember, when you find yourself trying to sell an idea to yourself, it’s a red flag—it’s rarely necessary to sell yourself on a genuinely good idea. Ultimately, wise decisions are not just about choosing between good and bad but understanding what is truly the wisest thing to do in any situation.
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Mantle 2024
There are some moments in history which are indescribable and that Conference was one of them.
On July 10th I flew into Atlanta, Georgia to attend Mantle 2024 hosted by Apostle Joshua Giles. I had no expectations except to meet Jesus there and have an encounter with the one and only true living God.
Day 1 - I picked up my badge and after changing came back to the venue for night 1. The conference began with a loud blowing of a shofar horn which filled the room followed by the procession of the ark of the Covenant replica. We then went into worship accompanied by praise and flag dancers. Joshua Giles preached the first night and I immediately knew there was something different about the conference. Again I was happy to be in the room because I had an encounter with God that night that I can’t describe. I was Mantled!
Day 2 kicked off at 9am with several different speakers, an amazing prophetic panel discussion and ended with one of my favorite speakers Pastor Hannah! Again - we encountered God in an unusual way. People were healed, delivered and forever changed. I opted to stay in the building all day instead of leaving during the condensed breaks. It ended at 11pm that night. Some thought I was on vacation, but I wasn’t - there was nothing touristy about this trip.
Day 3 opened with a powerful word - which I can’t wait to rewatch and then it went into baptisms. I’ve never seen baptisms in that way - people were unable to get out of the water tubs from encountering the presence of God. This was later followed by a break, a prophetic think tank and closed with a powerful word by Bishop Tudor Bismark.
Day 4 - The last day opened in prophetic singing followed by a word by Bishop Tudor Bismark and then Dr. Anita Philips set the stage ablaze with her message. It ended in a message from Chuck the last speaker and a reminder to take what we learned back to our selective cities. We were Mantled.
Since then, I’ve watched the replays, my limited video clips and still get chills. I met so many amazing women, prayed and cried with them and mostly importantly experienced Jesus. My life will never be the same. I was Mantled by God.
If interested in watching video replays are available on YouTube. Start here and keep going.
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The Mic is Always On
We’ve all heard the cliché, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” However, we should recognize that this saying is far from the truth. Words, whether spoken or written, can be just as impactful as physical actions.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you didn’t watch what you said? I was chatting with a friend this weekend and was reminded of an incident from my college days.
Storytime: I remember being on a date in college and thinking I was sending a text message to a friend about the guy I was with. Unfortunately, I accidentally sent the message to the guy himself and initially had no idea I had done so. While the message wasn’t terrible, I cringed and wanted to disappear from embarrassment right there in the theater. This experience underscored how words can leave a lasting impression, and it taught me to always assume the microphone is on.
I’m continually working on being mindful of my words. Scripture offers a poignant reminder:
“We can make a large horse go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a small rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot chooses to go, even though the winds are strong. In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire.” James 3:3-5 NLT
Words matter! They have the power to build up or tear down. It’s easy to say something, but much harder to take those words back.
Remember, the microphone is always on—watch your words!
Dating in My 30s
I've written countless blogs, but surprisingly, I’ve never dedicated one to the topic of dating—until now. So here it is. Buckle up for this one!
Sometimes life doesn’t go as planned, and you find yourself in unexpected seasons. My goal was to be married by 27 with two kids. Now, at 35, I’m single. 😬 Life happened, and despite having a few serious relationships, they ended due to irreconcilable differences.
Fast forward to today, and here I am, navigating the world of dating and talking... sigh. 😂 For the longest time, I didn't really understand what dating was.
One of my favorite mentors, Dr. Dharius Daniels, said that dating is simply collecting data! That’s it! You’re gathering information to see if your values align, if you’re compatible, if there’s attraction (because that's important), and if you can communicate well. This definition has simplified the dating process for me. To date effectively, you need to know what you want and what’s important to you based on your values.
Secondly, I’ve realized I need to date more safely. I now offer to schedule a virtual meet-up on Zoom before meeting in person. This makes me feel safer and helps me decide if an in-person date is necessary.
Lastly, you must have fun! There will be miscommunications, assumptions, and unspoken expectations. Remember, it’s just two humans coming together to chat and to get to know each other. Enjoy the process, and that’s it! Maybe I’ll share more in another blog. Lol.
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My Father is the Pilot
Story time: A man was walking down the aisle of an airplane during a bout of extreme turbulence. While everyone else looked nervous after the flight attendants instructed them to put on their seat belts, he remained calm and unbothered. A nearby passenger, noticing his demeanor, asked why he wasn't concerned about the turbulence. The man simply replied, "Because my Father is the pilot."
This story resonated deeply with me. It reminded me that knowing my Heavenly Father is the pilot of my life gives me immense peace. He is the creator of the world and has everything under His control. While others may worry, I can remain calm, knowing that God is not like man—He cannot lie. If He has promised something, it will come to pass. All His promises are "yes" and "amen." Storms will come, but I can weather them with confidence, knowing God is my pilot.
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